Role of the Christian Father – Lead and Love Relentlessly

There is no doubt in my mind that in today’s society there are many forces that are threatening one of the most important and critical institutions of society…the family. Pope John Paul II said that the family is the primary cell of society, it is indispensable, and the future of society as a whole depends on it.

Christian Father

The role of the Christian father is to model how Christ loved. When I think about how Christ loved, one word comes to mind…Relentless!! When I think of relentless, the song “Reckless Love” by Cory Asbury comes to mind. It reminds me of how, as a Christian father, I should strive to love my children. The words are inspiring and challenge me to give my all in pursuit of being the best father to my children because the stakes are too high and they are worth it!

I believe that most of the issues we have today in society stem from a breakdown in the family. If we allow ourselves to be vulnerable and fully transparent, removing our masks, we will find that at the root of the problems we face in society points back to the family and a lack of leadership and love. This is not to pass judgment, but a reality of our human flaws and brokenness.

As fathers, we are co-leaders of the family and with fatherhood comes great responsibility. Being a father is no easy task, it requires relentless leadership and love, and it encompasses courage, commitment, patience, perseverance, and hard work. At times fatherhood can seem like a daunting task, overbearing, and just exhausting to the point of just giving up and settling for mediocrity. So how do we as fathers find the wisdom, strength, and courage to lead and love for the sake of our family? As Christian fathers, we are called to lead and love as Christ did…to lay down our lives in service to others…to be relentless!!

Take Action – Be Bold and Courageous

Courage is not the absence of’s the presence of fear but having the willingness to face it! Christian FatherWhen a building is burning down, firefighters don’t run away from the fire…they face it and go into it! In their minds they turn their should into a must, they raise the level of necessity because the stakes are too high. The same is true for fathers, we can no longer be bystanders watching our homes burn down (metaphorically). We must raise our game and find the courage to act, to raise our standards and level of expectancy.

As a father I have to stop fearing that if I raise my standards and level of expectancy for my children that they will not “like me”, not see me as “their buddy”, or that I will be different from the “norm”. The fear factor is getting in our way to lead with courage, to be a greater force for good and to inspire our children to have higher expectations for themselves. The role of the Christian father is to train and prepare their children for the arena of life, to be in their corner and empower them with the right mindset to win in life.

As fathers, we cannot give what we don’t have, so if we are serious about taking action and being bold, we must look inward and begin with ourselves. Let’s aspire to be the best father we can be, to gain knowledge and train our minds to think at optimal levels so that we can inspire our children to do the same and make a positive impact in society.

Greatness Comes From Commitment

Anything great requires commitment. A commitment to stay focused on the desired outcome. A commitment to push beyond our emotions, especially when we don’t “feel” like doing it. A commitment to being the best father we can be, regardless of the hard times, difficulties and disappointments. A commitment to win!!

It is so critical that we make a commitment to pour our lives into our children and inspire them to believe in themselves and their God given abilities. Sadly in today’s world many young people don’t have a clear understanding of their self-identity and potential, and therefore live 1/2 committed lives and settle for average.

Father teaching

As a Christian father it is my duty and obligation to train and prepare my children for life. Part of that training is to help shape how they think about themselves. Everything begins with the mind, we must teach them to master their mind first, to understand and believe that they came into this world with a God-given purpose and that they have the skills and ability to achieve their purpose. Our children look to us as their father to lead, guide, and inspire them. Let us make a commitment to instill in them a desire to aspire for greatness in everything they do!

There is Incredible Value in Patience

Let’s face it, no one likes to wait. We live in an instant gratification world, we want it here and now…we want to see results immediately, but the Graduationreality is that most good things in life with great value take time and patience. In fact, I would even say that we as humans appreciate and value things more when we have to wait and work hard for it, and I think it’s because it cost us something, it wasn’t just easily given to us. Raising children is no different.

Our kids can sometimes drive us crazy, increase our level of stress and frustration, and disappointment us. So what are we to do as a father when we seem to have no more patience and energy? We DO NOT give up! We stay in the fight for our children’s sake.

As fathers, we are called to dig down deep into our souls and ask for the virtue of patience. With all of our flaws and brokenness, Christ did not give up on humankind, he was patient and embraced his cross to the very end so that we can receive the gift of salvation…therefore, we as Christian fathers must do the same for our children.

There is a deep sense of gratitude and fulfillment when you have poured your life into your children, giving them your time, energy, and relentless patience… instilling in them moral values…until one day they come around and finally get it! It’s an incredible awesome feeling when you as a father can sit back and witness all your hard work and patience paid off!

Trials & Tribulations Produce Perseverance

When life gets tough and the challenges of fatherhood wear us down we tend to want to give up and quit. We tell ourselves this is just too hard and it requires too much work. When we are faced with these moments we must remind ourselves of the end game..our “Why”. Our “Why” must be bigger than ourselves.

My “Why” is because I believe that the family is the primary cell of society Familyand that the future of society as a whole depends on it. As a Christian father it is my duty and obligation to raise my children with good and noble values, to teach them right from wrong so that they may grow up and do good in the world. Regardless of how hard it gets we must persevere for the sake of our children and society.

Hard Work Will Lead to Success!

Any successful outcome is preceded by hard work, there is no way around it. Whether it be in your education, business, career, health or sports, winning will require you to do the work and put in the time. Being a father and raising children is no different, if we are serious about leading and winning as a father, we must be willing to take action and work hard!!

Let’s face it, the world is broken, the stakes are very high…it is up to us as Christian fathers to decide, act, and commit. Let’s make that commitment to develop ourselves first by renewing our minds and then taking full ownership and accountability to lead and love relentlessly!!

19 thoughts on “Role of the Christian Father – Lead and Love Relentlessly”

  1. I agree with the fact that most issues ewe have in the society stem from a breakfown family. This issue one way or the other can be traced to the disorder in the family. This article had just groomed me on my role as a father, it has informed me on what and how to be a Christian father , I’m not a father yet but this article has educated me that the fate of the society depends on how much I played my role as a Christian father because if my home has issue the issue will erupt to the society . Thanks for sharing this information.

  2. Nice article there, I like every part of it,this article is base on the importance of family to our society.

    let me start by saying every immorality start from the family and end up in the society, there is need to be love and care for our children and teach them the right way of God because they’ll are the future, failure to do this.there is high chance they look for love and bad teaching outside that will corrupt there mind.without a good family,there is no way for a better society.father are the role model to there children especially male child, they follow the father steps.and I must say is not the top of only the father, it the role of both the mother and the father to produce the good people in to the society 

    • Hey Afolabi – Happy you enjoyed the read, appreciate the feedback. Sadly too many kids are yearning for the love of their father, and dads want to be there for them but just don’t know how to and where to start. I am hoping I can help some way thru my posts. Thanks!

  3. I totally agree with you, the basic unit if our society, which is the family, us been threatened everyday. It’s becoming a norm for kids to grow up without father’s due to divorce. 

    The role of a father in any child’s life cannot be undermined. It’s the duty of a father to provide direction and leadership for the family. A father has to be stern in setting standards by examples, but also a father has to be loving and accommodating to his children. 

    I believe to raise children that the society would be proud of, the input of both parents is needed to impact on the children.

    • Hi Louis. Yes, too many kids out there with a broken heart as a result of the breakdown of the family, and it breaks my heart to see that. The father plays a unique role in the life of the child and men need to realize that it makes a huge impact in society. Thanks!

  4. Your writing is clear and succinct and I sincerely appreciate your perspective on the role of Christian fathers. Your stance on developing the mind and teaching right from wrong is admirable. Thank you so much for the write-up and I hope that everyone who stumbles across it is able to use your leadership to do good works in the world.


    • Hey Buck! Appreciate the kind words. It is a passion of mine to reach out and provide guidance and help in this area because it’s so important that we get this right. Thanks for the feedback!

  5. Thanks a lot Jeff, i had a great read.

    I’m quite glad seeing how you used biblical principles to chart a definite and ‘walkable’ course for fathers.

    Another way to fully embody love is to understand that true love as embodied by The Lord Jesus Christ is actually Sacrificial.

    I’m a young man myself, and i’m learning the paths. Hoping to contribute my quota to the develop and transformation of the society, as I model Christlikeness and build appropriately on the homefront.

    Thanks once again. I have bookmarked your site and will be here some other time.

    Please keep up the good work. We need more of this Jeff.

    • Hi Festus – Glad you enjoyed the read. I agree with you that true love requires denying self and sacrifice. I am happy to hear that you are striving to make a difference in society as a model of Christ. Thanks for the encouragement!! Wishing the same for you!

  6. Hi there. This post is really inspiring because everything said in here is absolutely true. The role of christian fathers can’t be underestimated in the growth of the children because they represent the true value of Christ. True valua of Christ is pure love and that must be shown to the children. As a coleader of the family, truly, the role of the father comes with a daunting task when it comes to raise the children with true value. I totaly agreedwith the the father must show fear and fear must be erradicated and must have better mindset. Thank you for sharing this inspiring post 

    • Hi Kehinde – Thanks for the feedback! Happy you found the post inspiring and that inspires me to keep writing more on the topic, so thank you. Completely agree with your comment that our children should be exposed to the pure love of Christ, it makes all the difference in this world!

  7. This article is a mustbtobread and digest by every father and a potential father. Gathers are feathers, every father’s should learn loving their house unconditionally. Christ love is and we should love one another relentlessly.

    fathers role in a family are to pray, provide, protect and teach the children on how to love God and loves their neighbor. fathers must program his children mind of winning in life. Thanks for sharing 

  8. I was so sober and did a lot of reflection as I read through. It really is so easy to give up and let the kids run amok in this current society we live in. Where it seems as kids have been given more authority than the parents and trying to set your kid right is increasingly looking like its a you-hate-your-child-offence and all the love you have shown before seems to be forgotten for that instant. I can only imagine the toll that has taken on fathers of this generation. The role of a Christian father is tolead and love relentlessly but sometimes, society expects them to only love relentlesly. I hope that this is awakening of Christians fathers, to take back their place and lead as God wants them to. 

    • Hi Vapz – Thank you for reading my post. Yes, our kids do test our patience! Agree that it is not easy in today’s world to parent, we sometimes second guess ourselves and we give up and choose the easy way, but in the end that hurts our kids and it doesn’t give them the structure and order in their lives that they need to make good choices in life. Best wishes!

  9. Hi,Thank you for sharing this great informational article about Role Of The Christian Father. It is really a nice post. Your post is very motivational.I really know from your article personally about Role Of Father. I read about Role Of The Christian Father few months ago, i love your honest review about the Role Of Father. You have written lots of helpful article which encouraged lots of people. I will definitely be back to your website for your helpful information.

    • Thanks for your feedback! I’m glad you found the post uplifting and helpful, I enjoy writing to inspire and help folks who are looking for a little motivation and insight on the things that matter in life. Keep checking back for more posts that may be of interest to you. Appreciate your comments. 

  10. Thank you Jeff for this enlightening post on fatherhood.I’m particularly glad that you use biblical truths to show the way to mentor and build up the primacy cell of the society.Fathers really have their work cut out for them, i’m on my way to fatherhood, and i’m learning, as i desire to contribute my own quota in positively influencing my environment through a well built homefront.Thanks once again, i had a great read, hope to come around some other time


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