There is no doubt that being a parent is hard work! Many parents question and doubt their abilities in raising their children, and wonder if they are making the right decisions. The outcomes in life are a result of the decisions we make every day, and one of the most important decisions we can make as parents, is how we raise, train and prepare our children for life. As parents, we want to equip our children with the right mindset to make good choices in life so that they can live happy, healthy, vibrant and successful lives!
Proverbs 22:6 says “Train the young in the way they should go; even when old, they will not swerve from it”. As Christian parents, it’s important that we heed these words in order to establish a solid foundation of principles and values that will help our children navigate through life. Without instruction, structure, and proper formation, our children will drift aimlessly, uncertain about who they are and how they should live their lives.
Being a Christian parent can at times seem like it’s all uphill, the pull and pressure of society can be very challenging and overwhelming, especially if you are a single parent. In my 26 years of parenting, I’ve learned that Christian parents need a road map to help them raise their children in accordance with God’s plan. In this post I will share 4 Christian parenting tips that will make a positive impact. A good training foundation that parents can start with includes the following;
Living by Principles is a Game Changer!
As a parent I believe it’s important that we give our children a set of Christian principles to live by. Why? Because without them they will wander like lost sheep. Teaching our children Christian principles will help shape their identity and belief system. The reason why this is important is because everything they do will stem from their understanding of their identity and belief system. In raising our 4 children we make it a priority to teach and consistently remind the kids about the importance of learning and embracing different core principles that can help them make good decisions and successfully navigate through life.
One of the core principles we like to remind our children about is “You Reap What You Sow”. I like to refer to 2 Corinthians 9:6 that says “Consider this: whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully”, and Galatians 6:7 that states “Make no mistake: God is not mocked, for a person will reap only what he sows”.
The power of this principle is that it applies to everyone, whether we believe it or not, we cannot evade it. This is a good principle to teach our kids because they learn that there are consequences in life, good and bad. It’s also very empowering because they can be in control of their outcomes based on the decisions they make. It’s an opportunity for them to take a step back and re-evaluate their outcomes and ask themselves, what types of seeds am I sowing? If they don’t like the results they are getting then maybe it’s time to re-prioritize and sow different seeds. If you want tomatoes …you need to sow tomato seeds. The law of the harvest!
Your Attitude is Everything
I love this quote by Charles Swindoll “The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude… I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you…we are in charge of our attitudes”. Whenever our kids are faced with a challenge or problem, this is another good principle to remind them of. Let’s face it, no one likes to see their kids down and discouraged, it breaks our heart, but as parents, we must be there to support them to lift their spirits and give them hope for a brighter future.
The reality is that life can be difficult, people can be challenging, but how our children respond (their attitude) can make all the difference. Sometimes they cannot change their circumstances or the people they interact with, but they do have control of their attitude. It’s important that our kids realize that no one or anything can steal their joy and hope, unless they allow it.
A positive attitude is attractive and contagious, it’s uplifting and inspiring! Let’s inspire our kids to embrace a positive “I CAN” attitude in everything they do…school work, sports, relationships, and spiritual life. This principle will serve them well throughout their lives to confront the challenges of life and to achieve their aspirations!
Your Beliefs Will Determine Your Behavior
I believe that a person’s actions are a representation of their thoughts and beliefs. As a Christian it can be very difficult at times not to conform to what everyone else is doing, especially for our children. There is the pressure of feeling like an outsider and not being accepted. I get it, no one likes to feel rejected, but as Christians parents, we must help our kids find the courage within themselves and “Dare to Be Different“, to be a light of inspiration to others regardless of how difficult it may be… we are called to do that as Christians.
Romans 12:2 says “Do not conform yourselves to this age but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and pleasing and perfect”. When our children renew their minds through Holy Scripture, Christian books and music, and proper parental guidance, they will be inspired and empowered to align their behavior with their Christian beliefs. As parents, we should be “Role Models” of good and honorable behavior, to live consistent with our Christian faith…our actions and faith should be congruent.
Your Character Becomes Your Destiny
An invaluable principle we can teach our children is to become a person of character. A person of character is someone who is consistent and committed to living their lives in accordance with their values and principles. As Christian parents, we should set high ethical standards for our kids and encourage them not to compromise them for anyone. Our world so desperately needs to see more examples of integrity, let’s teach our children that their words and actions should be in alignment because their future will depend on it.
This is a great quote from Frank Outlaw to share with your kids, it reads:
“Watch your thoughts, they become words;
watch your words, they become actions;
watch your actions, they become habits;
watch your habits, they become character;
watch your character, for it becomes your destiny”.
Equip Our Kids to Win in Life!
Parenting is about leadership, we have a duty and obligation to lead and equip our children to win in life. To lay a solid foundation of morals, values, and principles. We MUST make it a priority in our lives to invest time and energy in properly raising our kids by teaching them Christian principles and the A (attitude), B (behavior), C (character) of life!